How to choose a guild that's right for you
by Emiko
This might be one of those things, that have no real set in stone guidelines. It might be one of those topics, that have no borders, no boundaries, no determinable end, or closing... but that's what we're here today to find out, you and I.
Im going to start this off with a little parable..
- One morning as I wandered alone, travelling in knee high water, I turrned to the 237.000th heckler of the evening, and gave it the best ingot I had...
To ask the question and find the solution that works for us.
How to choose a guild that's right for you
Now, I've been in and out of many orgs, clanside, and omniside. Ive been with AO since beta 2001, and seen guilds rise and fall like the tidepools. Some animals survive easily when the tide is out, others die.
When you are looking for a guild on Rubi Ka, it's important to know why you are looking for a guild. Is it to get phats? To meet new people? To learn something new? The reasons are endless and without measure., therefore, I will speak from my own experience.
I am a social person, I am drawn to people, I love finding out what makes someone else tick. I love to make people laugh, and watch them blossom, Ive always been that way, I think it has something to do with being the youngest of five, with a single mother, I had to find my way to shine. Anyways, segue.. slightly, but back on track...
Finding out what your goals are for the guild are crucial. What do you expect from a guild?
Me, I expect
- Leadership
Accessibility
Organization
Activity
Morale
Equality
Personal Empowerment
Objective Empowerment
Safety
RP and the Social Aspect *new*
Without all of these qualities, a guild cannot sustain life for everyone who are originally drawn to the guild for whatever reasons. Mind you this is a list I came up with on the fly, Im sure I have left out alot, and topics may overlap sometimes.
Finding out in which areas your guild shines can tell you exactly what type of guild you are in and where their true priorities lie.
In a guild that lacks any of these major qualities, you will see people leave and often.
Lets take them one by one and deconstruct them for to further understand them and discovery what they are about.
- 1. Leadership:
A guild must have good leadership. That doesnt mean it needs a lot of generals or leaders, but it has to have leaders who know how to lead. Leading is more of a walking beside thing, but knowing the way. A leader puts the needs of the org before the needs of the individual or self. A leader is compassionate, tolerant, and mindful. A good leader never tries to make a uninformed member feel less then, or bad, but seeeks to enlighten thru the teachings of their own experience, so that the member can learn and benefit the whole.
2. Accessibility:
What does it mean to be accesible? This means when you have a concern, a question, a need, you can come to your org leaders. They make themselves available to you. A great leader will come to you often, ask you how you are, say hello when you login, get you involved. Again expect them to be busy, so make some effort yourself here.
3. Organization:
A organized guild is easy to spot, they can accomplish anything, and do. With less resources and less time, more efficient in every regard.
4. Active:
A guild must be active. Teaming together, weeklly meetings help activity alot, a hangout, I find helps as well, to get a toe into the storyline, and a comfort zone for guildies to establish a comfort zone. The active guild has players on almost 24/7, and connects thru activities and guildchat, real issues as well as ingame situations.
5. Morale:
The morale of a guild is highly dependent upon the situations we take for granted. The times you think, this doesnt matter, is generally the thing that matters most. The little things, add up to the big things. Thats not to say make a big thing out of everything, but giving your fellow guildies the respect of an ear, council, teams, etc... can take your org to a higher level of development, of trust and efficiency.
A guild with high morale, doesnt sell to each other, but gives freely to those who need. The high morale guildees seek within the org for council, for items, for teams, for ideas, for buffs, the house becomes strong and independent. Individual morale is what will be reflected back on your peers, so mindfully we treat others who are NOT in the guild, in the manner we wish to be treated. This means, we dont grief others, we dont worry about a few mobs when another team is nearby, we are generous, forthright, and never demanding. We are a reflection of our guild, and make a example every day. God this sounds cheesy.
6. Equality:
Equality is merging right along with Morale, equality in this sense is we seek to be treated with equality. In your guild.. do you feel you are being treated respectfully? If not, do you have the openness of good leaders to listen to your concerns without getting defensive?
Equality and loot. This is a important topic and should not be kept out. Loot should never be granted for reasons of favoritism, but for those who have earned it. Loot should never goto someone based on level, although ability to use an item should always be priority over one who say cannot use it for many levels. Applicants should be allowed loot, if they put the effort and time in.
7. Personal Empowerment:
This is everything you are responsible for in the guild you joined. What do you bring to the table? Do you offer your time, when things arent as acitve as you want them to be. Do you offer your spare loot to your guildies so they can be empowered? Do you find out what your org needs, what your guildies needs are? Do you offer team spots to your org first? How do you make your guild a better place?
"Believe it or not, but org leaders cant do everything. My point here is.. when you join an org, there is some give and take in the relationship. Individuals expect certain things from an org, but they should be willing to give back to the org in order for it to function properly."¹
There is a dying force in AO these days. Whther it is due to disgrunted customers leaving, because they did not like the difference Shadowlands brought, or the out of control economy... whatever the reason.. manners and the social aspect of AO are at an all-time low.
Guilds grow too large. No one hears anyone else. People slowly lose sight of what's important. AO becomes for some, a living Tommyknocker. We must destroy the new walls that have been built, that seperate us from each other. Remember manners and the social aspect.
Things you can do
1. meet one new person in your guild each week or day
2. help one new person in your guild a week whether it be with a qust, or simply information of conversation
8. Objective Empowerment:
This is everything that is brought into the org from everyone other then yourself. Obviously your perception on these gifts, decide whether or not you are jazzed or not.. but we wont go into that here. How do the people in your org behave? How do they respond to you? Do they respond? When was the last time you teamed with your guildies.. have you ever felt like you werent in a guild at all, when you were? Do you feel empowered by what is going on your org?
No org will ever be perfect, but we try to be as smooth running as possible. Generally guilds excell in 1 or 2 or 3 areas, but have work to do in others.. thats where you come in. Find ways to establish your goals, and if you cannot, or if the org cannot find room for them.. well, maybe its time to leave and find a new org that can.
9. Safety:
It is vital that you feel safe to communicate your concerns, to feel vulnerable at some point to be open, and honest wihtout worry of being chastized, /org kicked, etc... Safety is crucial, and is established by well organized and mature leadership.
Safety also means, if you do something that breaks a rule, and you are new, you are given a chance, you are talked to ina respectful manner, not to made to feel bad, or inferior. Fear is no place to come from in regards to a behavior issue. Remember we all see things differently, there are no black and white issues, most are gradients of infinite variation and permuations. Be patient.
10. RP and the Social Aspect:
Roleplaying may or may not ever come into play in your organization. There appears to be quite the dichotomy of worlds in AO. That being the RP guilds tend to stay relatively low level, and the Power level guilds. Unfortunately for the social aspect, communication seems to die the further on the spectrum you get from RP guild status and closer to Power Level guild status.
Personally I like a guild that communicates well together. But I want to establish progress in Shadowlands as well.. the blanace is tricky to say the least!
I dont know how helpful this guide is to anyone, or if Im merely rambling as a means of deconstructing the last 3 years in a way that enlightens me about me, therebye helping you to see a few things about yourself, or perhaps Im just ranting, either way... I wish you luck, on Rubi ka, and off, and I hope your org and you are all they can be! Have fun and respect other people's fun
Lovingly, Kupotek
P.S. This treatise may be long it may be short, it's by no means complete, and could easily be said by someone far more eloquent in a fraction of the words. I bring it to you as a message of good will.
Sincerely,
little leet nibbling the wires,
Emiko
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¹ Fionnghal
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